This is what God gave me today in His word:
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye. (Luke 6:41-42)
Now, the teaching here is probably obvious to most people: don’t try to help a brother overcome sin, when you have a much “bigger”, life dominating sin. Now, of course there is no such thing as “big and small,” or “major and minor” sins. All sins that we commit are good enough reason for us to get thrown into Hell, whether the sin in question is a little white lie, or murder. However, there are levels, or magnitudes, of sin. For example, we see Jesus here talking about a two people: one has a log in the eye, the other has a speck; we know both the speck and the log are sin, but the “log” can be seen as a much more evident, and life-dominating sin (think: gluttony, drug addiction, alcohol addiction), while the speck can be seen as something where only a little improvement needs to be made (think: occasional lying, and other things which are seen as “small”).–Obviously, someone with the life-dominating sin, cannot effectively help the other person.
When your life is characterized by any sin, be it anger, or excessive lying, or any other seemingly unbreakable sin, it is no wise to try to help someone whose only struggle is, let’s say, jealousy. It’s impossible to help someone else, when you can’t help yourself, and in all likelihood, the problem will only end up being made worse. For example, if someone is being jealous of someone else, and you come along and tell them that, “Being occasionally jealous of someone else isn’t necessarily ‘bad’, but ought to be stopped before it gets too out of hand.” The person will only gains an excuse to continue sinning, rather than understanding the need to stop.
So long as we are in sin, we can’t help others, because we (in that circumstance) don’t know how to repent, accept Christ’ forgiveness of our sin, and change, much less know how to share those things with others.
You are Loved!